Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women's Love and Desire

Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women's Love and Desire By Lisa Diamond, Is love blind when it comes to gender For women, it just might be This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context dependent nature of female sexuality Lisa Diamond argues that for some women, love and desire are not rigidly heterosexual or homosexual but fluid, changing as women move through the stages of life, various social groupsIs love blind when it comes to gender For women, it just might be This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context dependent nature of female sexuality Lisa Diamond argues that for some women, love and desire are not rigidly heterosexual or homosexual but fluid, changing as women move through the stages of life, various social groups, and, most important, different love relationships This perspective clashes with traditional views of sexual orientation as a stable and fixed trait But that view is based on research conducted almost entirely on men Diamond is the first to study a large group of women over time She has tracked one hundred women for than ten years as they have emerged from adolescence into adulthood She summarizes their experiences and reviews research ranging from the psychology of love to the biology of sex differences Sexual Fluidity offers moving first person accounts of women falling in and out of love with men or women at different times in their lives For some, gender becomes irrelevant I fall in love with the person, not the gender, say some respondents Sexual Fluidity offers a new understanding of women s sexuality and of the central importance of love 20071029. Sexual Fluidity Understanding Women s Love and Desire Is love blind when it comes to gender For women it just might be This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context dependent nature of female sexuality Lisa Diamond

  • Title: Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women's Love and Desire
  • Author: Lisa Diamond
  • ISBN: 9780674026247
  • Page: 162
  • Format: Hardcover
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    1. This may be the longest I ve gone before writing a review for a book I finished, but it s partly because of this book and partly because of just life Though right now I have no excuse other than the fact that I m at work, but pshaw , so I just need to bite the bullet so this is no longer over my head.The idea behind the book was fine I expected a lot from the book itself, however Diamond s study covered about ten years of research with a core group of women, meeting with them periodically to se [...]

    2. Fun fact about the author Lisa is a faculty member in my department, and in addition to being a ridiculously prolific researcher, she is an outstanding baker At high altitudes, no less This includes everything from whatever her grad students request as their special birthday treat to transgender ginger people before winter break.Back to the book fantastic The moral of the story is that for decades, researchers treated a large segment of women as noise in their sexuality work the women who identi [...]

    3. This wasn t a perfect book mostly because of its cissexism but it was a life altering book for me This recontextualizes my entire romantic and sexual history It was the most affirming thing to read at this point in my life It s changed the way I think about sexual orientation and identity If you have ever felt like you don t fit into the traditional models of sexual orientation, I highly, highly recommend this book.

    4. Although I had a few issues with this book namely the cissexism I can t ignore that this was a life changing read for me It completely changed how I think about sexual orientation and identity, and it was the most affirming book I could possibly read at this point in my life It argues that women s sexuality is characterized by change and fluidity to different degrees for different people Diamond demonstrates that our framework for viewing sexuality is fundamentally flawed It blew my mind If you [...]

    5. EBB, FLOW Review By Hanne Blank WHAT TO MAKE OF COLLEGE women who are lesbian until graduation Or straight married women who suddenly fall in love with other women For that matter, what about queeridentified women Anne Heche, anyone who wind up with men Perhaps they re really bisexual or confused or maybe they were simply repressed or closeted Alarmists might imagine them victims of predatory dykes and Stockholm syndrome Or, as University of Utah psychologist Lisa Diamond suggests in her captiva [...]

    6. So many methodological problems with this book I don t even know what to say If you know anything about setting up a good study, you know this is not a good study and then you feel bad because this woman devoted 10 years to creating a pretty worthless study Outcomes synthesis many white, affluent, educated, gay bi women who fantasized slept with were attracted to both sexes in college were still somewhat ambivalent about their sexual preferences fantasies partner genders later in life.Ouch.

    7. Diamond asks a number of questions why do women seem to experience fluidity in their sexual attractions and involvements over their lives than males do and what does such fluidity say about the categories gay, straight, bi that society seems to insist on She also raises a number of very intriguing issues why do we insist that anything that changes or shifts, that can be described as a phase , is somehow inauthentic or false Diamond looks at a ten year 1995 2005 sample of women bi, lesbian, hete [...]

    8. I enjoyed this book when I first read it, but in retrospect, coming from a place in my life where I m far aware and critical of compulsory heterosexuality, I find the lack of discussion of social pressures on women to be be fluid i.e, involved with men to be highly suspect Diamond s analysis positions itself as rejecting traditional models of sexual orientation and desire, but, ultimately, it reinforces heterosexuality, which falls far from the challenge of social expectations about women s des [...]

    9. Hats off to Lisa Diamond for this book Even though there s a bit of sampling bias and limitation in her longitudinal study which could easily be remedied by better grants and research assistants no doubt after this book she ll be in a better position to get that , the findings she uncovers are doubtless invaluable to the field of sex research, and will hopefully be taken seriously by the scientific community and laypersons alike For common readers, the book is very accessible, easy to read, and [...]

    10. I ve been reading quite a few books about polyamory and sexuality, but nothing has seemed true to my experiences as Lisa Diamond s book, Sexual Fluidity I ve had questions concerning my own sexual orientation my entire life and have never felt normal Well, which this book didn t result in feeling any normalcy, it does an amazing job of explaining the complex interaction of genetic, environment, situation, chemistry and human connection plays in female sexuality Now I finally understand that for [...]

    11. This groundbreaking book and Lisa Diamond s research should be mandatory reading for anyone studying human sexuality or anyone interested in women s sexual orientation and identity.

    12. Even if you re completely, 100% heterosexual in other words, a staunch O on Kinsey s scale , you ve probably at least pondered the fluidity of female sexuality As far as Kinsey s 0 to 6 scale on a continuum from completely heterosexual at zero and completely homosexual at six, as the word continuum might suggest, most people fall somewhere in between However, one topic that is rife with debate, tends to have very passionate opinions, and that is most certainly a hot button issue within the femal [...]

    13. Diamond theory is definitely moving in the right direction Unfortunately, her presentation of that theory sucks.When presenting a lesser known theory that s just beginning to gain traction, presentation is key This is not a new theory, despite what the author implies I ve encountered the fluid sexuality idea several times in other reading, although never in such detail Diamond is moving it forward, not nearly as much as she seems to think she is in the book, but she s got a fairly solid start I [...]

    14. I am about 1 3 of the way through this book I chose to read it because I have questioned whether women can easily move from relationships with women to men and back again This book s theme is sexual fluidity for women, and it seems to support the idea that women fall in love with a person, regardless of their sex and they are less inclined to fall into fixed categories of gay straight other.In my research with men who have been in relationships with women, it is very unusual for men to move bac [...]

    15. I wanted to like this book I have a profound respect for Lisa Diamond s research, and I think it took incredible courage for her to propose a new theory of sexual identity development especially since it contradicts the firmly entrenched stage theories of development The writing style, however, was not particularly engaging, and I found the book to be tedious Diamond s work has been groundbreaking, but I think the general public could easily lose interest I also think that, while she made a pre [...]

    16. This one book may well be the most important work on sexuality in general and female psychology in particular I have come across in decades Newer research will make us all rethink everything we ever assumed we knew about the subject Diamond is incredibly balanced and compassionate as much as dispassionate about what the data tells She is a superb researcher and finally accomplishes what I have begging researchers to do combine the previously warring and normally antithetical theories of essentia [...]

    17. It is my experience and my belief that there are many women who, after a failed relationship with a man, have found themselves passionately involved with a woman What was so remarkable about Lisa Diamond s research was her ability to validate this experience a search for and an attraction to a familiar personality profile without the necessity of gender labels A woman to whom this happens once is not bi sexual or lesbian but based on societal values, she has been outside the norm I feel lucky to [...]

    18. I thought this book was a good overview of women s sexuality and how it tends toward the fluid in orientation As a bisexual, it gave me some understanding of why I feel like my orientation often shifts along the Kinsey scale I am a fan of the continuum concept.I would have liked stories from the women surveyed I felt like Diamond got caught up in theory, statistics and jargon I wanted personal experiences However, I felt like this was good, for what it was It felt like a PhD dissertation.

    19. Even though sexual orientation is fairly stable, women in particular possess a certain amount of sexual fluidity A very important contribution to research on sexualitiy, even though the author is ever so slightly too essentialistfor me.

    20. Lisa Diamond is an Associate Professor at the University of Utah and a self identified feminist scientist Her primary field of research lies in the realm of the psychological and biobehavioral processes underlying intimate relationships and their influence on emotional experience and functioning over the life course Her book Sexual Fluidity Understanding Women s Love and Desire discusses her results of some of her research in this area Diamond begins with an overview of current prevailing assump [...]

    21. I think this book would have benefited from much editing A ten year research project should have afforded plenty of time for organizing, and I can t really come up with any acceptable reason why this book didn t present that research in a clear and engaging way A lot of this book read like a college essay, and it was very repetitive throughout of a handful of themes that were never clearly tied up neatly at the end of the presentation I didn t actually even come on here to critique the format, [...]

    22. Based on the case studies of 100 different womens romantic journeys spanning across 10 years is a solid effort and deserves a few stars for that dedication alone.At first i wasn t sure if Lisa and I were going to see eye to eye After all, one of the main ideas of this book is that women are naturally fluid than men Nonsense Men have equal potential too It s just that homophobia and patriarchal blah, blah runs deep i d throw the book aside.Though I think i was left a little open minded to the p [...]

    23. In traditional studies about sexuality, people largely women who reported that their attractions changed over time were excluded because they were considered to be noise in the data Lisa Diamond asked an important question What if, instead of noise in the data, these women are the data She conducted a ten year longitudinal study to look at both how women self identify and how they behave sexually and found that, indeed, sexual fluidity is extremely common among women.There are some shortcomings [...]

    24. I hardly know what to say about this book that won t involve me just completely gushing Okay, I ll gush OH MY GOD, THIS BOOK I felt profoundly validated and reassured by both the responses of the research participants as well as Diamond s analysis of the results My own experience of sexuality has been ing, to put it mildly, so it was really nice to feel normally abnormal And on a purely just did a Masters in Linguistics nerd level, I about peed myself when she brought dynamic systems complexity [...]

    25. Lisa Diamond is a psychologist at the University of Utah yes, Utah whose research reinforces the need for a paradigm shift in our understanding of sexuality Diamond launched a longitudinal study in which 100 females some of whom are trans were interviewed about their sexual attractions and experiences every few years for 10 years The result is the book Sexual Fluidity.In this book Diamond profiles some of the women she interviewed and also provides excellent descriptions of the biopsychology of [...]

    26. The star thing is going to be a little different with these research books I m reading because according to the previous requirement of affecting my ideas, I have certainly integrated a lot of these ideas about gender into my understanding of gender and sexuality However, it isn t a creative writing book, so I was uncertain about a 4 star rating, because I could have even gone five but You know, this really boils down to me exposing myself to a non creative book So, in the sense that books are t [...]

    27. It s wonderful to read a book that authoritatively legitimizes feelings and experiences that, until that point, had not been recognized by most researchers Like most of the women in this book, my sexual orientation was never something I could jam into a neat box Every few pages I had an ah ha moment or was struck by the novelty of Diamond s views on sexuality the idea that there are multiple pathways to being gay, that women experience same sex attractions in largely different ways than men do T [...]

    28. There are many scientifically written books about lgbt and related issues, and most of the great ones I came across have humans as their main subject study There are many reasons for that, which aren t pertinent to discuss here This book, however, presented people s sexuality with exhaustive research and scientific studies over a long period of time, on a large and various sample population which makes the publication trustworthy and free from bias I can t help emphasizing that this is an objec [...]

    29. 4.5 starsAs someone who falls within the asexual spectrum, I feel that part of the experiences some of the women had weren t even given the chance to be analyzed with an ace aware perspective, and while I do understand that at the time this study was conducted there wasn t much information about it, it s also true that some texts within the academy were already showing the word asexual by then.That and the nearly absence of mention of the non binary gender spectrum, as well as the very little ex [...]

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